Having two teenage kids sometimes drive me insane. Not because of their bad behavior–both of my teenager son and daughter are sweet kids, Alhamdulillah–but because they are reaching puberty. It means, in this phase, they started to learn about love.
My 16 y.o. son told me, he’s going steady with this girl in his class. A sweet and shy girl. She wears hijab, like me. He showed me her picture and her texts. I was like…. ow-kaaay.. ^_^
And when he showed me their texting, there are loving words like: “thank you, sweety.” “I miss you too.” and “I love you.” And reading it, I was like going, “Whaaaaadafuqqq..!!” *ahem, sorry, son! Mom-mom didn’t mean to swear* That’s it. I can’t read further–even though my son allowed me to.
And not only that, my son even ask for my advice. Lots and lots of time. “Mom, if she asked me like this, what would be the best answer for me to give?” Such question always left me jaw-dropped. How can I put this right, but….. ah, if only they know! Kids, your mother is never really prepared to see her children grow up. My children are, and will always be, my babies.
Yep. Denial. Mother style. ^_^
Okay, so if my son caused me a jaw-dropped, my daughter has successfully made my eyes popped out. *LOL*
You see, my daughter (she’s my only girl) grows up beautiful. She has a black curly hair and dark skin, which she hates. I told her that she’s beautiful, but she never believed me. “Of course, Mom, I’m your daughter. You’d say I’m beautiful anyway.” That’s what she often says. Now where the heck did she learn such sarcasm? Uh, wait, yeah…she learned it from me. ^_^ I was a sarcastic and cynical person in my younger time. *LOL*
Anyways, few days ago, my daughter suddenly asked for my advice. She told me that she liked this boy, a sophomore (her senior). She called him “senpai”. It’s a Japanese term for a senior in school or high school. Well, yes, my daughter has a serious interest in Japan culture. And she’s also an otaku, like me. (Note: Otaku means people with obsessive interests, commonly the anime and manga fandom). And this senpai of her also an otaku. So, they kinda “speak the same language”, about anime, manga updates.
Okay, so, my daughter likes this senpai, a lot. But he, apparently, didn’t show likewise. And so, she started to see another boy in her class. Oh, btw, my daughter studies animation in a state high school in Jakarta.
To understand it better, let me copy the conversation between me and my daughter on whatsapp. And to be honest, she talks English to me. Not Indonesian. It’s her way of practicing English. And I must admit, her English is way better than mine when I was her age. ^_^ Not just that, she also speaks Japanese. She learned it by herself based on the Japanese books (and dictionary) I bought years earlier.
Me: Okay. Shoot.
W: But it’s about love pls dont kill me..
Me: Hmmmm… *lower my gun*
Okay, what about it?
W: -_- So uhmm. I’m going out with this person in my class. I like him so much I always think about him. I’m really happy with him by my side, my heart beats like crazy when he come near me. So, really, I like him so much.
Me: Oh.. he’s not that senpai of yours? See… ababil. ^_^ —> Indonesian uses the term “ababil” as a soft mock to call young people with unstable hearts. hahaha…
Okay, so what’s the problem?
W: And then one day I met senpai at the canteen. I even dreamt about senpai three times in a row, last week… After some week we didn’t contact each other. My heart throbs and it felt like squeezed from the inside, I barely breathe. Like, wtf. Does it mean that I still like senpai or what? I even cried because of senpai because I felt like he betrayed me. Cause he said he doesn’t like this one girl but he always talk about her in twitter. And he knew that I liked him, yet act like nothing happen.
Me: Hihihihihi.. Does senpai know about this boy you went out with? Yes of course, it means you still like your senpai. And boys, Uwi, never tell his feelings honestly like girls do.
Me: Oh… well, you’re not a real sister of his, so he can always change his mind about it. Well… just don’t take the step like other girls would do. You know, playing around, and try to make senpai jealous. It just won’t work for certain boys. Just be his friend. His imouto. Don’t put your hope too high. Just enjoy the good talks with him. Most boys prefer that.
W: Yeahahaha.. Oh, like, you mean I go out with another boy to make him jealous? Hell nahh! 😀 😀
No, I won’t put my hope too high. And what about my bf? Which should I choose first, focusing to supress my feeling for senpai or keep on with this relationship? And oh, do you think that I’m really mean to my bf? Bu I really do like him…
Me: Hahahaha.. galau ni ye.. 😛 —> it’s a friendly mocking for people who got confused with their feelings.
Noo.. just enjoy both. Do you really think if you sacrifice your relationship for your senpai, he would accept you? It doesn’t work that way. Just enjoy the time with your boyfriend and stay friends with senpai. Just remember what I told you: don’t use your heart too much. Just take it easy. Don’t say “I love you” unless you are very sure about it. “I like you” is enough.
W: Yeah that’s what I need to hear. Thanks mom, hehe.. Yeahahaha.. ^_^ I love you mom, wkwkwkw.. *kiss kiss*
Me: Did my words solve your heart’s restlessness, babe?
W: Yeah, they did, indeed. :* :*
Me: Hehehe.. Alhamdulillah. Yo wis, don’t forget to pray.
Okay. One teenage problem solved! I’m so proud of myself. *LOL*
Phew.. I kinda feel like a love consultant for my children. Hope I’d be a good one. ^_^