my mother-in-law is my mother for life

❤️ My mother-in-law (woman with glasses sitting next to me) survived Covid. The virus cost her 3 weeks being hospitalized, and also claimed the life of 1 of his 4 sons. The burden so great, even I can’t bear to fit my feet in her shoes. Her husband passed away 2 years ago, so she’s really struggling by herself.

In the past, we were not exactly in good terms because of some misunderstandings, which also ended up my marriage with her son back in 2001. But she was always a wise and good-at-heart kind of woman. She still welcomes me kindly.

And in 2007, I got married again to a good man who, apparently, able to bring my relationship with my mother-in-law, better. My second husband is that type of guy who takes a great care of parents and elderly. He never thought that my mother-in-law is in fact the mother of a man who married and abandoned his wife in the past. He never blamed his “rival” parents. Yes, that’s how awesome my second husband was.

But, in time, things changed. The lesson I learned that there are no bad people, just bad decisions. Even good people can make bad decisions.

Knowing this disaster I was facing, my mother-in-law chose to become my rock, and helping me raising her two grandchildren.

Anyway, like I said, she survived Covid, but at great cost. Her mind is showing the sign of dementia, to my horror. I wish I could do something more, but if I do, most likely my ex’ new wife would flipped off. 😅 I don’t want to cause any trouble, so, I try my best to stay out of it.

Alhamdulillah my daughter helped me in touch with her granny by video call. At least I can encourage her spirit and be her rock this time.

One thing really touched me, this morning during video call she asked me: Nina, who are you with right now? Are you married yet? Do you have money? Do you need money?

Subhanallah, she’s worried about me. I’m “only” her son’s ex wife and yet she loves me like her own. 🤗 I am honored and grateful, alhamdulillah.

As for her question, I replied: Mama, don’t worry about me. I am financially stable, Alhamdulillah. Please, I need you to focus about your well-being right now. And, no, I’m with nobody. Will you pray for me, Mama? Because your blessing is Allah’s blessing too, since you are my mother for life.

She answered again: Oh, of course, dear. I am praying you will get marry soon to a man who will love and take a good care of you and my grandchildren. And I expect, by the time your daughter get marry, you already have someone taking care of you.

I replied: In shaa Allah. Thank you, Mama. I love you.

Her reaction when hearing I said that words almost break me. She was crying and replied: I love you too, daughter. I do. Please be well.

Wallah, I tried so hard to not crying right then—I cried later, after she hung up the call. I mean, I am her rock right now, right? I must not show her that I am also worried sick about her. She must not see me sad, because she will feel guilty for making me sad. So I keep smiling and keep giving her positive vibes. That’s what I learned being an adult: To be able to numb ourselves so we will not get carried away and break down.

Anyway, please pray for her health, good people. 🙏🏻😊 I ask for your kindness too, and I have asked Allah’s for sure. I pray she gets better soon.. ❤️

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