Belajar dari Muara Rapak, Balikpapan

Jalan-jalan virtual ke Balikpapan bareng Tim OSP Kotaku Kalimantan Timur dan teman-teman relawan Kelurahan Muara Rapak, Kecamatan Balikpapan Utara, Kota Balikpapan. Mendengar penuturan Ketua Badan Keswadayaan Masyarakat (BKM) Adi Suwito. Tujuan pertemuan virtual ini sebenarnya menggali soal sosialisasi dan pelatihan masyarakat.
Serunya, Pak Adi Suwito mengungkapkan, antara lain, cerita-cerita di balik kegiatan Cash For Work (CFW) Program Kotaku 2021. Ternyata banyak kisah inspiratif, semisal sosok perempuan tangguh, tulang punggung keluarga, yang turut terlibat dalam proses konstruksi pembangunan infrastruktur.

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Selain itu, ada cerita tentang kegiatan penutupan CFW kelurahan yang juga dihadiri wali kota dong!–Plus fakta bahwa BKM sukses menggandeng PT Pertamina untuk diajak berkolaborasi, menggelontorkan bantuan untuk meningkatkan kualitas kehidupan di kelurahan dan mendorong permukiman ini menjadi lokasi destinasi wisata.

Cerita berikutnya, yang menurut saya inspiratif, adalah tentang kinerja Kelompok Pemanfaat dan Pemelihara (KPP) dari masyarakat sendiri, yang menjadi motor penggerak melestarikan hasil pembangunan infrastruktur agar sesuai usia bangunan, bahkan lebih, sehingga lebih bermanfaat lebih lama bagi lebih banyak warga pemanfaat. Maintenance atau perawatan bangunan bukan perkara mudah. Dalam Program Kotaku, konsep maintenance hasil pembangunan untuk masyarakat dilakukan oleh warganya sendiri. Tentunya, mengajak warga terlibat merawat bangunan fasilitas untuk komunitas pun bukan perkara mudah. Tapi, Muara Rapak, bisa. Keren kan?

Berikutnya, Pak Adi Suwito juga bercerita tentang Pelatihan Tukang dan On The Job Training (OJT) bagi warga yang terlibat dalam pembangunan infrastruktur CFW. Menurut Pak Adi, beliau tertarik dengan pelatihan tukang ini, karena jadi belajar banyak soal konstruksi dan standar kualitas pekerjaan konstruksi yang kemudian dipraktikkan dalam kegiatan CFW. Jadi, pekerja yang terlibat dalam kegiatan infrastruktur berbasis masyarakat dalam Program Kotaku itu memang tidak sembarangan orang, gaesss.. Mereka dilatih (dan lulus) terlebih dahulu, agar kualitas fasilitas yang dibangun sesuai umur bangunan seperti rencana.

Sambil publikasi tulisan ini, zoom meeting masih berlanjut. Udah segini dulu aja yaa.. 😁🙏 Semangatttt teruss, teman-teman Kaltim!

Ramadhan Story: Day 28 – Lesson Learned

This evening, I checked on my email, and there was a notification of a comment left by a reader on my old writing: My Tafakkur Throughout The Year. The reader thanked me and said that article is useful for them. Well, it might be just a simple comment of being nice and all, but I appreciated it. So, it’s my pleasure. 🙂

It was my old writing. Published in November 2013, one month and six days before I finally “brave enough” to answer my (then) husband’s threat to divorce me, for the 118th times in our 6,5 years of marriage.

That writing was made during my time of contemplation. It’s kind of an eye-opening moment. I finally accepted that our marriage, at that time, was no longer a blessed one. Because if it was, there would be no pain when walking, and living on it. The fact, it was painful to even “breathing” it for a day. The marriage that suppose to be a heaven on earth had turned into a living hell–and it was NOT even an exaggeration!

Facing constant accusations and treatment (verbally and physically) as if I were a criminal for something I didn’t even do, is hellish. I was not happy for the last 2-3 years of my marriage. And because I’m a person who can not swallow the bitter pills that might kill me, sooner or later, I needed to decide to do something to make a better off future. Beside, I have given him chances to correct himself, once too many times already. But, he didn’t use it, so… you can guess the rest of the story. I have made up my mind.

So, when he threatened to divorce me via blackberry messenger–yeah, I know, he was low like that–I answered: “ACCEPTED. Now please, leave my house immediately, because that house belongs to my father and you are no longer welcome to live in it.”

He treated me like a trash, so I treated him back like a garbage. He then started to slander me more, calling me “a whore with hijab”, and accused me “covering my head but selling my vagina” in his social medias. How cute is a slander done by a husband to the woman who gave birth to his child and took care of him and his everything when he has nothing at all to give? Hehehehe…

When facing it all, I was only smiling. I didn’t reply. I didn’t even react. I know he expected me to answer, but I didn’t do it. For what. Because what ever I did will only encourage him to behave worse and worse. And I need to make it clear to him that what ever he did to get my name dirty is no longer has effect on me. Why? Because to me, then, he is invisible.

Sometimes, the only way to calm the water is to freeze it.

When someone back stab or slander you, the best thing you can do is not to react. Ignore them as if they are invisible. Because, people who like you will not believe that even for a sec, and people who hates you will not give a damn with your explanation to clear out your name. Just leave it be. Eventually, time will reveal the truth.

Painful? Of course. That’s why Allah give GRAND rewards for people who stay patient (sabr) when facing a slander. So the solution is: stay patient. Beside, you can not fight fire with fire. You need to be the soda. Well, soda is proven that it can put off fire. And, can quench your thirst at the same time. Hahaha.. 🙂

Alright, that’s all for now. I was only writing this as a follow up the flash back from that earlier post of mine. I and my ex had been divorced for almost 5 years now. All is forgiven. Everything has been cooled down, and finally calmed down after third year. And now we are friends again, without any chance to return to our marriage though.

Wait, after all he did to Nina, has he even a pride to ask to get back together (rujuk) again? Of course, he tried it, like 9 to 10 times the last 4 years. At the first try, and I rejected, he stormed out. Angry because of the rejection. He spoke badly even more about me. But I kept silent. He used our youngest son as a “weapon” and accused me a cruel mother for letting him grow without both parents’ presence. I kept silent. Still. The thing is, my ex NEEDS to grow up himself. Because a grown up man will not use any excuses to win a woman’s heart. And he knows when to stop when the woman he “targeted” rejected him, over and over again. And for a strong reason that was.

He thought I didn’t forgive him, and I said he’s wrong about that. But, really, just because all is forgiven doesn’t mean that I can trust him with my heart, and even, my life again. Every single act has its own consequences, and lost of trust and love are two of the consequences. Lesson learned, that’s all I can say.

I don’t know if this “follow up” writing can help anyone who reads it, but I’m writing it anyway. I never write for fame. I just write what I want. 🙂 But hopefully, it’s useful somehow.

Have a lovely Ramadhan, folks.

[Opinion] keeping it balanced

Whoaaaa watching this footage gave me chill to the bone…

But the vid taught me some lessons:

1. To keep everything in balance doesn’t mean that you HAVE TO BE in the middle all the time.

2. If life were series of sticks, stalks and shafts, which shown in the vid, then keeping balance means that “you must be in the right place, in the right moment, thinking it right and do the right thing”.

3. Serenity, patience and concentration are the keys of keeping the balance.

4. Never underestimate small things. In the footage, the act started from a simple, light feather. So was life, started from the smalls–sperm and ovum, zygot, fetus, baby, infant, teenage, adult and then elder. Or small things: reading, thinking, considering, combining with creativity, pop out the idea, collecting the materials for it, and realizing. And the list continues.

Amazing how a simple act carries so much philosophy in it..


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Weiiiii…. merinding ngeliat potongan video satu ini..

Tapi video ini membuat saya belajar beberapa hal:

1. Menjaga keseimbangan bukan berarti kita harus SELALU di tengah.

2. Jika hidup terdiri atas rangkaian tangkai dan batang, seperti yang ditunjukkan dalam video, menjaga keseimbangan berarti "berada di tempat yang tepat, di waktu yang tepat, berpikir secara tepat dan melakukan hal tepat pula".

3. Ketenangan, kesabaran dan konsentrasi adalah modal utama menjaga keseimbangan.

4. Jangan remehkan hal kecil. Di video ini, atraksi bermula dari selembar bulu ringan. Begitu juga hidup, bermula dari yang kecil—nutfah, zigot, janin, bayi, balita, remaja, dewasa, lalu tua, untuk siklus manusia. Atau dari hal kecil: membaca, memikirkan, merenungkan, memadukan dengan kreativitas, mencetuskan ide, mengumpulkan bahan, sampai pelaksanaan mewujudkannya. Dan seterusnya. ^_^

Luar biasa betapa atraksi sederhana bisa sarat filosofi. ❤

Screenshots of the footage, courtesy of youtube:
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Happy weekend, folks! 😉

One lifetime may not enough to answer the questions in one’s life. That’s why, I think, we need to learn others’ life experiences, and thinking wisely in adopting their wisdoms.

The pictures I gathered here were taken from “The Idealist” (https://www.facebook.com/TheIDEAlistRevolution) page on facebook.

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